My K1-Visa, my fiancé’s birthday, and finding the little things that make you smile

Like I’ve said probably 500 times before, I’m trying to get my US visa. We wanted to get married here in Germany first, and then get the visa as a spouse. Now, we have decided to go with the K1 fiancé Visa. We hired a team of immigration lawyers, which practically take care if everything. So that’s what we’re doing now.

The past few weeks, we’ve been filling out personal shit, gave them pictures, recipes of gifts, flight and travel logs. Basically just every single kind of proof, that we’re in a legitimate, real relationship, and not some dumb ass fake bullshit. Let me tell you, it is time consuming as fuck. There is so much stuff they need. And don’t get me wrong, I’m beyond grateful for the team of lawyers. They provide a portal, with different tasks to do. Like personal questions, pictures together, different documents to upload. They make it very easy. But at the end of the day, you have to sift through pictures, and call logs, find recipes of gifts, that we gave each other, and messages between us.

The most important document of this whole thing though, is the letter that your US partner has to write. It basically is a letter about your history as a couple. From how you met, to your first date, how you fell in love, how your relationship developed over the years, and what your plans are, once you get to the US. It’s the selling point of the application, the most important part.

We’ve done all this stuff now. Our application is getting filed, and prepared, and ready to be send out. The K1-Visa has a waiting time of 5-8 months. But because of the current situation in the world, it’s supposed to get through a little faster. My mother in law is hoping we’re in the US by the end of the year. That’s when our apartment lease finally ends. I hope she will be right. The past few weeks now, this whole visa thing, is the only thing on my mind.

I’m excited, that we’re finally getting somewhere, I’m nervous that I’ll get rejected. There’s a lot of emotions happening, and it’s scary. I mean, what If the pictures, recipes, call logs, whatever else, isn’t enough. What if there is a mistake in my personal documents. The big what if, is always in the background, never going away. But I’m also hopeful. I’m excited, to finally get back to New York, to finally be with my family again, to finally get married, have children, start studying psychology. I can’t wait for all of that. And that’s what I have to remind myself off, that everything will be okay, that we’ll get this through, and be done with it.

But at the same time, I cannot forget about my fiancé’s birthday. It’s next Friday. We have a trip planned, that partially is to get his Italian passport renewed. But it’s also about having a good time, to wake up in those soft and nice hotel sheets, to have brunch, go shopping, visit museums, and go to the zoo.

His birthday reminded me, that even though 2020 is a horrible year, filled with sadness and anxiety, there are also moments, that are happy, and positive. Even though this year, might not be the best one, we can’t overlook the little things in life. Like birthdays, or spontaneous shopping dates, or day trips to beautiful places. We can’t let the darkness overshadow the light.

My fiancé’s nonni always says, it’s easier to be happy then to be sad. And we should always remember that. We can’t get too anxious, about what’s going on in the world. We have to take each day on it’s own, and try to make it at least a little bit happy. Find the little things, things that make you smile. Maybe that’s your cup of coffee in the morning watching the sunrise, or maybe it’s having lunch with your partner, or just having a little me time. For me it’s doing my skincare at night. It relaxes me, massaging my serums in, and just pampering myself with face masks and nice products. That’s my thing, but everyone is different, and rightfully so, everyone has their own special thing that makes them happy and gives them a smile.

I guess my point here is, my visa application is a shit tone of work, my fiancé’s birthday is next week, and I have a trip planned for him. And most importantly, even though this year is 100% shit, don’t let it take over and suck you in a cycle of negativity and bad feelings. But rather find the little things in life, that make you smile. Take your mind of the fucked politics going on, the world going down, climate change, and whatever else is fucked up, and find the beauty in life. At least for a moment or two.

Because, it’s easier to be happy, then to be sad.